Decorating the Christmas tree has gotten very difficult for me. Why? Because of all the memories. A byproduct of aging is the absence of loved ones. It happens to everyone. However, it is difficult. Life comes with losses. We must somehow learn to navigate life in spite of the pain and loss that we encounter along the way.
4 Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
Matthew 5:4 (CSB)
21 Blessed are you who are now hungry,
because you will be filled.
Blessed are you who weep now,
because you will laugh.
Luke 6:21 (CSB)
No one likes to mourn. Mourning comes, usually, from loss. We all mourn. It is part of what it means to be human. Life consists of a variety of experiences, both good and bad. Our response to these events is not passive. We have an emotional response to all life events. Loss is one of life’s most difficult experiences. How we respond to loss can vary. In fact, most have a variety of responses, outlined in the stages of mourning. What does kingdom living say? We do not mourn alone. In God’s kingdom, comfort exists. It would be incorrect for us to see God as being without loss. He Himself was the sacrifice paid to repair the rift in our relationship with Him. He draws near to His own and comforts those who mourn. He also gives us each other. One of the things we are called to do is to share in the mourning and the comfort of others. I experienced this in church recently. I am facing uncertainty in my health. More than one person stopped, looked me in the eyes and inquired as to how I was doing. As I teared up and shared my fears, arms hugged me and prayers were said. We are not always skilled at comforting, but most wish to be able to offer comfort to those who are mourning.
Are you mourning or are you comforting, or both? If you have lived very long you have lost something you held dear. If you are like me, this plagues you often. How can we find comfort? One of the things I try to remind myself is to realign my mind to an eternal perspective. Many of the things we have lost will be regained or become irrelevant in eternity. Also, am I living my life in pursuit of knowing God, not just knowing about God? Am I pursuing His presence? He is my comfort and my joy.
So where does that leave us? What can I do today to begin to heal? I will seek God’s presence through_________________. I will ask God to heal my thinking and my emotions regarding ______________ by focusing my eyes on Him and an eternal perspective. I will comfort ______________ who I know is hurting.
Draw near to me. Give me comfort. Make me a comforter to others. Give me the heart to reach out to others with skill and compassion. Thank You that You are near and that You comfort me. Help me to heal and to have Your perspective. Make me like You.