Taming the Tongue

Uh oh.  There they are…..those words.   They are out there hanging in the air.  There is nothing I can do to take them back.  Once they are spoken, they cannot be unspoken.  Now my only option is to do damage control.  Or can I?  I can ask for forgiveness, say that I didn’t really mean what I said.  But, I cannot undo the damage.  Now the recipient of my words will be on their own spiritual journey of healing their inner being.  I cannot undo what I have done.


James 1:26 Christian Standard Bible (CSB)

26 If anyone[a] thinks he is religious without controlling his tongue, his religion is useless and he deceives himself.

James 1:19 Christian Standard Bible (CSB)

19 My dear brothers and sisters, understand this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger,

James 3:9-11 Christian Standard Bible (CSB)

With the tongue we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in God’s likeness. 10 Blessing and cursing come out of the same mouth. My brothers and sisters, these things should not be this way. 11 Does a spring pour out sweet and bitter water from the same opening?

I don’t know how many times a day I regret what I say?  How many times have I destroyed someone with my words?  Do I think myself a mature Christian?  I am a teacher of the Word.  How is this acceptable?

How can I add to what James has already made clear?  The tongue is a fire.  It should not be.  If God dwells in us, shouldn’t we be submitted to Him?  Shouldn’t blessing spill out instead of cursing.   I am striving to be better.  My goal is to pause before I speak, to take time to suppress the reaction, to act instead of react.   I have been setting my intentions toward blessing.  I have a very difficult struggle with this when I go to work. Much about our lives is endlessly frustrating.  And isn’t it the people who frustrate us the most?  I have been known to take this frustration out on others.  When I walk in to work, I ask God to make be a blessing. I ask Him to make me see people, to see them individually as people who were created in God’s image.  I ask Him to give me words that treat them as people and to speak blessing.


What about you?  I think this is one of the most common problems we encounter.

What will you do today to become more aware of the what you say and how it affects others?

Will you endeavor to begin to be intentional about your speech?

Will you ask God for transformation?

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